day forty-eight. Be Real. Be YOU. This came up for me recently… this simple notion of being authentic, being myself, in all it’s glory. The foundation for healthy and vibrant partnerships and friendships is forged through authentic mutual sharing of what we are experiencing inside. This also includes how we communicate our experiences to one other, too. I was born under the sign of Gemini, and the symbol is the Twins but more importantly the phrase is ‘I Communicate’. I take that as this lifetime I must learn the best way to communicate. The only problem with this is that the pains and tribulations of learning this curriculum can be trying on my relationships. SORRY!
Many of us pride ourselves on being authentic, but authenticity is a tricky term. It points toward an ongoing process of uncovering what’s percolating deep within us. Authenticity involves a sincere effort to go inside ourselves and uncover what we’re actually experiencing, and then communicate that. True authenticity requires that we pause and check in with ourselves before responding, rather than sloppily venting emotions in a reactive way. Being an air sign, I tend pop out whatever comes to mind. So my process involves s l o w i n g down, not feeling the need to communicate EVERY thought… trying to have my thoughts and feelings land and with that resonation discern which ones actually need to be said. And to whom.
Sometimes we hide. Sometimes I hide. This looks like avoidance, this looks like playing small. Sometimes it feels like a lot of effort to put yourself out there, be VULNERABLE, especially in the past when we have felt hurt around this. Not seen, not heard, no loved. But in order for us to have what we truly want, to have deep, meaningful relationships, we must share our weaknesses. We must share our hard moments and our real side. It’ll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called “perfection,” which will open the doors to the most important relationships you’ll ever be a part of. This is the gift that awaits us just on the other side of stepping up our REALness.
“Anyone can possess, anyone can profess, but it is an altogether different thing to confess.”
― Shannon L. Alder
When we turn around and come face to face with our destiny, we discover that words (spoken) are not enough.
Paulo Coelho once said, “I realized a long time ago that a warrior in search of his dream must take his inspiration from what he actually does & not from what he imagines himself doing.”